Guidance is simpler than you think

30/10/2018 at 6:55 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | 2 Comments
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Twenty years ago, I was struggling with the challenge of parenting a baby with complex health issues. I was also, by no coincidence at all, starting off on my long path to be a spiritual healer. In the night, I would dream vividly. The dreams were detailed, emphatic and helpful. I called them ‘Night tuition’. I saw them as a form of guidance. Where they came from, I had no idea. To me, it didn’t matter whether they originated from my own subconscious, or from some infinite dream library to which all beings have access.

What mattered most to me is that, over time, the dreams helped me to navigate the tricky path that I was treading, along with my partner and our tiny, so vulnerable child.

I’d like to share with you the simplest, barest dream that I experienced. It was simple, but it was powerful. It set the tone for all my future parenting. Actually, it set the tone for everything that has happened since, in every single aspect of my life.

In the dream there was just one, single thing to look at: a rectangle. The shape was shown against a plain background. The rectangle and the background were both devoid of colour. The whole scene was greyscale – just varying degrees of light and dark.

“Which is lighter: the rectangle, or the background?” asked a teacher, next to me but invisible.

I looked carefully. It felt for all the world like some kind of eye test.

Truthfully, the rectangle and the background seemed at first to be pretty similar shades of grey. However, as I looked, it seemed to me that the rectangle was shining more brightly. In fact, it was definitely lighter.

“The rectangle,” I replied.

“Good,” said my teacher. And waves of love washed over me.

In that instant, I understood that the rectangle represented a choice that each of us makes countless times. The rectangle represented the choice between love and fear. Love, in this dream example, was lit up, as though a light was shining through it. If I had seen the rectangle as darker than its background, it would have meant that I was viewing life through a fearful lens, programmed to expect the worst. However, by seeing the rectangle as lighter than its background, I was actually viewing life through the lens of love. It meant that on some fundamental level, I had learnt to trust that in the big scheme of things, all is well.

This was an important lesson for me. It helped me to understand that my love as a mother could be a powerful force in my son’s life. It enabled me to see that my partner’s love as a father could be as protective as mountains. And it taught me that fear would weaken that parental strength and power. So the dream reinforced my innate wish to choose love rather than fear.

How do you know that your guidance is real?

The subject of guidance comes up often in people who visit me. “How do you know that your guidance is real?” is probably the most common query. It’s a good question. We can all, perhaps, think of a susceptible friend who has followed inner promptings and made poor decisions in the process.  You may have come across people, as I have, who say concerning things, such as,”My guidance told me to give up my job/leave my partner and take up with this difficult person who is my soul mate, my twin flame. That’s what my guidance told me.”

To such people I say, as diplomatically as possible, “That is not your guidance.” I think back to my dream about a greyscale rectangle against a greyscale background and I tell them, “Your guidance never tells you what to do. Your guidance is always loving. If you don’t feel happy and loved, then that is not guidance – I don’t know what it is, but it’s certainly not guidance. The advice you think you have received is not in your best interests. Listen to your own common sense. Listen to the loving voice inside yourself, that wants the very best for you, and knows that you are a person of value and purpose.”

Every decision you make in this life is either based on love, or fear. There are no exceptions. Which do you choose right now?

 

 

 

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  1. fabulous as usual, as I am much older I have had many experiences, but now I have no guidance, I don’t really understand, perhaps when we get to a certain age we must enjoy the day

    • I wonder if you’ve found, as I have, that guidance is more present during the really challenging times? It’s also very possible that you respond to small and subtle every day guidance so you don’t need the big shouty messages any more!


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